Sylva Fae

1000 Voices For Compassion – A Mother’s Wish

rainbowvoicesFebruary the 20th is here, the day that 1000 bloggers, film makers and artists from around the world will come together to speak for compassion. I am proud to be apart of this. To read other posts of compassion, search for the #1000speak hashtag on Twitter or check out the:

1000 Voices Speak for Compassion Facebook page

 

‘Sing’ – Gary Barlow & The Commonwealth Band featuring Military Wives


It was while listening to my three little girls singing this song that several things struck me. Firstly, the lyrics and sentiment make it the perfect song to symbolise what 1000 Voices for Compassion is trying to achieve; a thousand voices old and young shouting love tonight.

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I listened with a mother’s heart-swelling pride as the three forgot sibling rivalries and united to sing their favourite song in unison. I swallowed back happy tears as I listened to their sweet voices, slightly out of tune, and watched their beautiful little faces so serious and earnest. Then it occurred to me that this may be the last time my husband ever hears his daughters sing.

A harsh reality to face, never to hear your children’s voices again, never to hear their silly banter, giggles and laughter. Things we take for granted but it is a reality he is facing. Partially deaf for many years, he always knew this time would come and now it’s here. Some days are better than others but the moments of poor hearing in between complete ‘can’t even hear own voice’ deafness are dwindling. He cherishes these moments listening to his girls. Their voices will never grow up with them and his memories will be forever the sweet, high pitched tones of a three, four and seven year old.

I watch as my girls adapt to their dad’s increasing deafness. Their childish acceptance and little acts of compassion are admirable. My eldest has reinvented sign language, making up her own signs she emphatically makes herself understood. My middle rascal has learned to sign ‘I love you daddy’ and repeats this frequently with smiles. And then my littlest, bemused by the changes, watches his frustration. She crawls onto his knee, wraps her little arms around his neck and kisses away his troubles.

We teach our children to read and love books so they’ll do well in school, we teach them manners to say their pleases and thank yous and we teach them good and bad, right from wrong. Surely compassion should be taught with equal vigour. I am fortunate to have my children in a school that embraces equality and diversity, having both discreet and integrated provision for children with disabilities and learning difficulties. The perfect setting to learn and show compassion…

 

rainbowvoicesA Mother’s Wish For Her Children

Be all that you can be and share the love and compassion you have with those around you.

 

Take Time…

Be the child who takes time to sign with the deaf child. Reach out and touch the blind child, be curious, take interest, let them educate you. Take the time to include them in your games so they may not feel so isolated.

Watch…

Be the child who looks out for the shy child or the new child who desperately wants to be friends but is too scared to speak. Take their hand, offer a smile, let them know they have a friend.

Listen…

Be the child who listens to the achievements of others. Be happy for the child who struggles, when they want to show off their work. It may not be as good as yours but for them it is a big achievement. Be proud of their progress and make them feel valued. Remember it takes nothing to give praise but kind words can mean the world to someone.

Comfort…

Be the child who is there to comfort the sad child, listen to their troubles and give them a hug. Give them a reason to smile again.

Show…

Be the stronger child. Don’t be saddened by the harsh words of the bully. Instead respond with kindness, show them by your actions a better way to behave.

Stand up…

Be the child who is willing to be different, to stand up for what you know is right. Don’t follow the crowd when they tease or pick on another child. Be the one who does the right thing.

My beautiful girls you were born with love and compassion in your hearts, share it with all those you meet. You were blessed with a life of fortune, you will never know what it feels like to feel hungry, alone or unloved. Never take this for granted. Be the child that I know you can be.
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12 thoughts on “1000 Voices For Compassion – A Mother’s Wish

  1. Neil G

    If people learn to speak with kindness, act with compassion and give from the heart, we’ll have no use for weapons, wars will not be fought and ‘peace’ will be the word in our mouths and the gift in our hands.
    Lovely piece of thinking and writing, Sylva. Thank you.

  2. Amy Lou

    What a beautiful song and beautiful post! I will be praying for your husband that his hearing lasts as long as possible so he can continue hearing those sweet voices!

    Amy Lou

  3. Suzy

    A truly beautiful wish. My dad got progressively more deaf as he grew older. My son and he had a special sign language that only the 2 could understand. It was so heart warming to watch them. Thanks for sharing your story.

  4. Kimmie

    This is a gorgeous post….I don’t believe those voices will ever be silent….the memory will sing long after your husbands hearing has gone.

    Thank you for sharing your story *out of the hearts of babes* 🙂

    All the best, kimmie x

  5. Lisa Shambrook

    Such a beautiful post, Sylva. My Dad lost all hearing in one ear at age ten, and 75% of his ‘good’ear soon after so we’ve been used to him missing much. So I know he cherishes what he can hear (more since he accepted a hearing aid!). Hope your husband’s hearing lasts x

    1. Sylva FaeSylva Fae Post author

      Your dad’s hearing sounds very similar to my husband’s. Thankfully his hasn’t got any worse since I posted this. He does cherish every moment though.

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